I’m 31, Not Married & Have No Kids….and I’m OK

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So I was hesistant about posting this…but the whole point of this blog is for me to speak open & honestly about some topics that are on my mind. So here it goes….

I would say in the last 2-3 years any time I meet someone new & I tell them my age, the follow up questions are always “Are you married?” or “When are you having kids?”. Like literally every time. My response is always “nope not married, no kids any time soon” & I try saying this with a smile on my face.

But I really want to answer back a) how is that any of your business or b) just because I’m in my thirties doesn’t mean I should be married with a baby on the way. It’s 2019 people, not 1954. Women don’t have to be barefoot & pregnant in the kitchen any more. I actually want to have a career & establish myself before I do all that. Shocking concept to some people, I know.

Even people close to me in my life are always asking- when are you going to have a baby? If I had a penny for every time that topic came up in my life, I would be one rich bitch.

My frustration is this- why do I automatically have to be married or have a baby just because I’m a certain age. I’m 31 not 61. Getting married & having kids is on my list of things to do- but just not yet. I feel like I have so much more to focus on in my life & so much I want to do before I get tied down with that level of responsibility.

I know you’ll never feel 100% ready to take these steps or there will never be “the perfect time”, but honestly I’m in no rush. I want to get to a certain level in my career, I want to own my own home, I want to feel financially secure before I even attempt at having a child. And more importantly, I want to be married first. Call me old fashioned, but I want to enjoy being married for a while before welcoming a child into this world. Traveling is also something that is on the top of my list- you can’t just pick up & go if you have a baby.

I also feel like people feel bad for you when they find out you are single & childless when you’re in your thirties.

For anyone who gets the same remarks or is feeling pressured to “settle down”, my message to you is this: Shake it off. Ignore it. You know what you want for your life, who cares what other people think. Everyone will have their opinion, all that matters is what your opinion is.

So the moral of my story is- I’m perfectly happy with where I’m at in my life. I have my health, I have a wonderful boyfriend who is the most supportive person ever & we have the cutest little fur baby! And trust me- she is handful & about all I can handle at the moment.